5 ways to deepen self connection
5 ways to deepen self connection
The intention behind this blog post came from the following thought I had on this day during my morning meditation…
“If I had a younger sister, What would have been my number one life mantra I shared with her?”
(I clearly don’t have a younger sister/sibling in reality LOL)
The answer was evidently clear in my mind which was…
“I would have shared the importance for knowing yourself and prioritising self connection”
So whilst I was dwelling on this random thought that popped up during my meditation session, It got me thinking about the 5 ways I would advice someone on how they could work on deepening their self connection along with go in a little bit of details on the importance of understanding and knowing yourself better. Noted below are the 5 methods I came up with:
1: Practice mindful emotional connection with yourself
Emotional connection with yourself means you take the time to spend quality time by yourself and identify what emotions are circulating in your state of being at the current phase of life you are in.
Quality time activities in where you can practice mindful emotional connection with yourself could be in a state of mediation but also just simply going for a walk or doing a chill low impact activity where you can let your mind wonder but also at the same time be aware of what emotion, thoughts and feelings come about.
For example, Simple activities such as practicing creating art or even simply doing colouring is a great way to be creative but at the same time spending quality time with yourself where you can quieten down and almost be as a meditative state of going with the flow.
Truth is that the mind often does wonder and whilst we do activities such as simply going for walks or creating art, in those moments it is almost human nature for the mind to wonder and bring forth emotions, thoughts and feelings, all those which if we do with intention could be a great way to become aware of what is coming up for us and connect with ourself emotionally to understand our feelings.
Understanding our own emotions is therefore a great way to deepen self connection, become more aware of who we are and how we process things.
2: Ask yourself questions and pay attention to the responses that come up
When faced with a situation whether good or bad, practice taking a moment to clear your mind to get in touch and enquire yourself with questions to see what immediate responses come up from within you.
Often the automatic responses that comes from our own mind brings forth great insights on what is going on in our conscious or even subconscious thoughts. Just like how you ask a friend, colleague, family member etc on what they think about certain things or situations, take a moment to also ask yourself of the same question.
What do YOU think about the same thing? How do YOU feel about the situation? Number one reason being is that often you are more aware of the ins and out of your own life situation more than others.
Granted, People in your life might know you very well and often worth consulting over for advice but it is a great practice for your own self connection to make sure you also always consult yourself on everything to get an understanding how you own mind sees the situation to be.
3: Practice journaling
I am a big advocate of journaling which is evident in this blog! Check out my post “5 Types of Journaling Methods to Deepen Your Self Connection” which goes in to greater details on why and how journaling is a great method for practicing self connection.
4: Consciously practice being your own best friend
Say you were to look at your current self from a third persons perspective and you are one of their closest friend who deeply cares about them and loves them, how would you treat this person? If you won’t allow for a friend for whom you share mutual love and respect with to talk negatively about themselves or be cruel with, why would you do that to your own self?
At the end of the day all you truly have is yourself, The ultimate truth being is that as a human we come to this world alone and unfortunately also have to leave alone. Of course in the events of birth and death we could have many people around us but the true experience remains to be of your own in which the other living people surrounding you does not simply get to experience that which you go through in those moments.
That could be also said about every other moment by moment experience we go through on everyday basis. Whatever you are feeling and experiencing at this moment could vastly differ to someone else sitting right next to you and the memories and emotions you carry on from the experience would be individual to your own and could never really be truly expressed back the way in how you experienced it.
In saying all of this, What I am trying to convey is the fact that as humans we are often blessed with other amazing people in our life through the various relationships we share with individuals whether it be family, friendship, romantic relationships etc but none of those people truly spend every moment of their existence with you and experience life the same way as you do moment by moment.
However, You do experience all of it together with yourself so be your own best friend for no one truly knows you better than you. No one has every truly lived your life or felt what you have felt beside yourself so learn to befriend yourself and acknowledge the journey you have shared with your mind, body & spirit.
Treat yourself with love and respect. Be gracious and understanding to yourself because all through life you will need yourself to be by your own side.
5: Embrace your individuality
No two people are ever alike and we are all uniquely individual. Based on my previous example, As humans we never really experience things the same way as others even if exposed to similar environment, activity and moment.
Through the practice of the previous 4 methods mentioned, It is inevitable to become more aware of you are individually as a person but there is a difference between knowing who you are and totally embracing who you are.
Embracing who you are means to being authentic to yourself, staying true to your own values, purpose and desire. Embracing your individuality is knowing that not everything is for everyone and that is okay.
Embracing who are as an individual allows you to deepen your self connection but also vice versa connecting with yourself allows for you to understand who you are and own up to who you are as an individual.
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